I have a koala in the house!

At the age of 6 months onward, Isaac will get extremely upset whenever I am out of his visibility. Even if it is for a few minutes (or seconds!), even if I am in the very next room. Initially, I would stop whatever i was doing and pick him up just so that he would stop crying. Or I would place him on his high chair in the same room as I am to watch what I am doing. Gross as it sounds, but this meant even when I needed to shower or had to sit on my inspirational throne. He would continue screaming even when my better half attended to him to the extent that his face is tomato red and filled with tears and mucus. Like this.

crybaby

This was when I decided to put a stop to it. Here’s what I practise.

1) Keep calm & Inform him what is going to happen
I will sit him down in his cot, and tell him what I am going to do and how long I would take.

Example :  “Mummy is going to put your clothes in the wash, will be back in 5 mins.”

Then proceed to walk out of the room calmly, even if he starts to cry.

2) Mean it when I say it
I try to make sure I have all that I need from the room he is in before leaving. Just so I do not have to leave the room twice. Simply because I realised that me leaving the room a second time agitates him a lot more.

3) Distraction
It could be his favourite toy or some Gerber puffs. For Isaac, watching the news anchor lady usually works. 😡

4) Assurance
When he is inconsolable and screaming at the top of his lungs, I will tell him (from wherever I am) that I am nearby and about to be done. Hearing my voice usually buys me a little more time at what I am doing.

5) Consistency (routine and caregiver)
Fortunately for me, I have my PIL (parents-in-law) to look after Isaac when we go to work. Overtime, he has gotten very attached  to them and has also gotten used to the routine of us dropping him off at gramps’ every morning. This makes things a lot easier for us since we do not have to deal with the whole ‘caregiver is not suitable’ kinda drama.

I must admit that having a baby is really life changing. I never knew I actually can have so much patience for someone until Isaac came along. I know that this phase will pass eventually. For now, this is me, 10 months into parenthood. I will just hang on tight and enjoy the ride!

Author: Pris

Hello there, my name is Priscilla. I am the co-creator of a baby boy, Isaac who brings nothing but joy to my life. Married to the love of my life who spoils me rotten and shows me how to be a better person each day. 3 years into parenthood and i am still trying to find a balance in being a mother and wife. Having too little photos of my childhood, I try to take as many photos of Isaac with our loved ones whenever possible. It certainly makes me look like an overly-obsessed mum but i assure you i am not. I am just obsessed. I look forward to sharing my adventures and experiences as a mum on this space.

17 thoughts on “I have a koala in the house!”

  1. Welcome welcome Pris. I have two of my own and I must say at 20 months old, my daughter do not always let me go out of sight.

    I think there’s two schools of thoughts. I’ve done this (what you’ve just described above) for my number one because I want a life! I want to be able to do my business without someone watching me. Hahahaha

    But really, I decided that they can koala me on anytime and anyhow they like when my number two came along. My motto: Love and Comfort above all.

    All they want is security and I am their security figure. I want to minimize crying and sadness in my child. I want them happy and if sticking to me keeps them a absolutely happy then that’s what I’ll do. Being mom is priority for me now. Since I’m a sahm, I can afford to do that without answering to any other bosses. Spending them with them is a privilege I now own and I should leave my chores behind, giving them all of me and enjoying everything about them.

    If I have a number 3, I won’t change my strategy. No more crying out loud like I did to number 1. Just lots of hugs, kisses and cuddles the whole day through hahahaha

  2. Aww but he’s a cute crying koala! 😛 Sometimes it does get a bit frustrating, but also pretty comforting to know that someone needs us so much. I’m with May in that my girl is welcome to koala me all she wants (although yes, I might say otherwise sometimes..). Hang in there and enjoy all this while you can!

    Ai @ Sakura Haruka

    1. Hello Ai! Good to know that most of us go through this phase. Yes, am enjoying every bit of this journey. Thank you for dropping by. 🙂

  3. Oh no. The separation anxiety phase. We’ve all been through that. I find that constant reassurance that we will be back and (actually) come back teaches them to trust and eventually, understand that you will not be gone forever. Hang in there! You are doing great!

  4. Hi Priscilla, my kids are older now and I do miss the times when they cry and latched on to me. Sounds weird but that was when I felt being love, wanted and needed most by them then. Hahaha. Enjoy these moments now!

    1. Actually you are right. It is abit of mixed feelings for me. Like, I don’t want him to have to cry everytime I leave, but at the same time it is really his way of showing his attachment to me. :\

  5. Hello PunggolBabies:)

    Separation anxiety happens to my Mrs too, and the kids always prefer her to me.
    Let them have the assurance that we are somewhere near.

    Fortunately (or unfortunately), this is a passing phase…

    cheers, Andy
    (SengkangBabies)

  6. It does happen dear after having 2 of my own kids, I have realized both are totally different one cried for attention and other one just cry to get pampered. In the entire day with 100 things on our mind sometime loosing patience is the easiest thing but after raising voice and then feeling guilty is the worst.

  7. Hello Pris, it’s normal to feel that way. With consistency and love, you can overcome this. Isaac will learn that you keep to your word and come back to him! Believe me, my girl is already five and she still cries at the smallest things at times. That’s why they are kids and that is what kids do. As a parent, you just need to assure them that you will always be there for them 🙂

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